Thursday, July 15, 2010
[Watch a family trying to detach.]
One thing which I have noticed is how many people who have chosen to convert from Orthodox Judaism to atheism continue to be supported financially and emotionally by relatives who are still Orthodox.
This is somewhat surprising, considering that Judaism teaches an absolute hatred of the enemies of God, as it states in Psalms 139:21-22 “Do not I hate them, O LORD, that hate Thee? And do not I strive with those that rise up against Thee? I hate them with utmost hatred; I count them mine enemies.” See Chofetz Chaim 8:5 where they are defined as those people who deny the divine origin of the Pentateuch, the legal portion of the Talmud or any part of them. These people actually hate the idea of a Higher Power who is telling them to do things and who will reward or punish them accordingly. Therefore we pray constantly for the heretic's complete destruction. When he dies, his relatives celebrate his death (Yoreh De'ah , 345, 5) . He may not read from the Torah in the synagogue or lead communal prayers. If he pours wine, a Jew may not drink it.
Some people may apologize for these apostates by claiming that they are merely ignorant or misguided however they have no bad intentions.
I think this depends on the circumstances.
Let's consider for a moment Holocaust denial as an analogy to Torah denial.
Let's say someone tells me that he believes that the Holocaust is a hoax fabricated by the Zionists. Now if this person were raised in Iran and educated from childhood by this parents and teachers to believe this and he had little opportunity to learn anything else, in that case I would say that he may be a good man who has simply been misled by his society. However, if he was born and raised in America, then I would say that there is no excuse for his false beliefs and he is clearly a Jew hater. Nothing else could cause this delusion.
By the same token, if someone raised in a secular home tells me that he does not believe in God and the Torah, I would say that he may be a good man who has simply been misled by his society. However, if he was born and raised in an Orthodox family, then I would say that there is no excuse for his false beliefs and he is clearly a God hater. Nothing else could cause this delusion.
The families who continue to support relatives whom they know, or strongly suspect, of being heretics, I believe are exhibiting classic codependent and enabling behaviors which are so often seen in the families of substance abusers. They are exacerbating the problem and are making themselves part of it. Bear in mind, that generally the heretic does in fact have real addiction problems, such as sexual addiction.
A more appropriate and truly merciful response would be complete detachment from the apostate.
Posted by jewish philosopher at 4:25 AM